More wishy-washy whinging

[mis_creation]

So, I've been talking about moving to Madison.

Of the local people whose opinions I care about, I've gotten one "don't go!", two "go if it makes you happy" and one "take me with you!"

The "don't go" came from my friend who is pregnant, which makes sense because I would be leaving only a few months after her kid is due. She has family, but they are mostly flaky/crazy. And she'd have mom and dad no doubt, but...I still feel bad that I'm even contemplating leaving one of my best friends at a difficult time.

And I know she'd understand if I had to go, but still. I could do the online thing.

Erin is the one saying, "take me with you!" Actually, it's more along the lines of, "I need a chance to start over and if I have a built-in roommate all the better!" She'd go with me to check it out, even, so that's an immediate travel companion as well. This idea has its good sides and its down sides. Good in that I'd have a friend, someone who knows me, and someone to live with without having to worry about scouting out non-psycho potential roommates.

On the down side...we've both debated if it counts as really starting over if you bring someone who has known you since junior high with you...

My parents are the ones saying "go if it makes you happy", which I appreciate. They'd worry, certainly, moving to a whole new place with no support network other than that offered by the school and family five hours away. But they're very supportive, despite the likelihood of racking up more debt I won't be able to pay for.

So largely positive response to my idea.

Comments

[ayla-britestar.livejournal.com]

I have a possible bonus for you if you/Erin decide to at least check out Madison: I live about 1 1/2 hours away from there. Depending on our timetables, a visit might be possible...

[mis-creation.livejournal.com]

Yay! That would be awesome! I think it would be great to see you again. Only we couldn't host you, because both Erin and I have cats, but still...

[ayla-britestar.livejournal.com]

That's okay. I could either drug myself up on allergy meds or we could visit somewhere cat-free. Also, not that I'm letting myself get my hopes up, but I just applied for a reporter job near Madison.

[dukerevolution.livejournal.com]

Don't worry about taking someone with you on your quest to start over. It's just one person, and there are multiple different experiences to take on, either separately or together. Besides, it makes sense to have a roommate you can trust to pay the rent.

[mis-creation.livejournal.com]

This is very true, especially since I'd be going to school and she wouldn't, which immediately puts us in different social worlds...

[musesrealm.livejournal.com]

First off, I'm a dyed-in-the-wool Capricorn, so unless I'm 200% sure I can succeed at something new, I just don't do it (we'd rather stay miserable and where we are than make a change that could possibly make us even more miserable, even if it would most likely actually make our situation better). That being said...

I'd miss you terribly if you go, but it's not like we really get together all that much anyway. We'd still be able to keep in touch no matter where you end up. ;-)

But this decision isn't about me, or any of your friends, or even your family; it's about you. If it's really the right decision and if you put your mind to it, you'll find a way to make it happen (you're tricky like that). If you feel like this is what is best for you, I say go for it!

[mis-creation.livejournal.com]

Huh. That sort of explains my sister, too, given the same birthdate thing and all...

Yeah...I'm really bad at getting together, apparently. I keep meaning to stop by and get some squash, but that window's probably closed, huh?

I know, but now, of course, it's looking more complicated than I thought before, thanks almost entirely to finances... Grr.